Nine months of therapy...down the tubes...
With one family drama. A while back, DWR posted a pic of 8 ways to enjoy the Alaskan Trails. I apply them to the managing of holiday expectations.
1) Leave no trace.
Husbands are good for this. They can recall conversations that parents don't seem to recall and remind you that you're not crazy. "Yes, we did have a conversation about what people's plans were, my husband remembers it as well even if you don't, so nah-nah-nah-nah-nah."
2)Share the experience. Be considerate.
Call me. Ask me if I could please ensure that no one's feelings are hurt and that everyone's needs are met by having a civilized conversation. Yes, we now have to share holidays with other families, that is hard. Then, let's come up with a way in which we get to be together in a way that works for everyone.
3) Observe the rules - know the law.
And, to quote, "I'm the law, bitches!"
4) Enjoy and respect plants and wildlife.
Let's enjoy each other, but respect that perhaps our expectations are different and unless we TALK, no not email, we can't know what everyone expects...and now we have wildlife.
5) Respect property rights.
Again, we all have certain limitations, things we are willing to do, and we must respect those financial or other restrictions.
6)Be willing to yield trail.
Yeah, so I sort of felt like I always yield the trail, which is why I had to go to therapy in the first place.
7) Plan ahead. Be self-reliant.
If you work in retail and know that the likelihood you will have to work is rather high, then perhaps you should make this known when plans are being made. "Oh, btw, remember how we decided to alternate holidays so everyone could be together, well that only works if you can come visit us because we probably won't be able to make it down." Ok, I will plan ahead. I will know that not only do I have to plan for funds to go back East, but also funds for staying on the West Coast.
8) Be alert - act safely, think safety.
I need a drink before I engage in certain conversations with family. Ugh.